The Truth About Feeling Awkward on Your Wedding Day
Nearly every couple I meet says the same thing, usually half-laughing and half-panicking:
“We’re awkward… we don’t like photos… we’re not comfortable in front of the camera.”
I hear it all the time at weddings across Kerry — in Killarney, Dingle, Kenmare, out along the Dingle Peninsula, and right across West Kerry.
And I always say the same thing back:
That’s normal.
And yes — you can still have lovely wedding photos.
If you’re reading this thinking “that’s us”, you’re exactly who I work with most.
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The Truth About Feeling Awkward on Your Wedding Day
Most people aren’t used to being photographed properly.
You might take the odd phone photo, but a wedding day is different. There’s attention. There’s pressure. There’s a timeline. And suddenly you’re expected to “pose”.
Add in Instagram and Pinterest and it gets worse. You start comparing yourselves to couples who look confident, relaxed, model-like. What you don’t see is that a lot of those images are staged, directed, repeated, and heavily guided.
Real couples — especially in Kerry weddings — aren’t like that.
They’re nervous in the morning. They fidget. They laugh at the wrong moments. They don’t know where to put their hands. And they worry about looking stiff.
That doesn’t mean the photos won’t be good.
It usually means they’ll be better.
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Truth is
I am awkward. You are awkward. Lord knows everyone is awkward in their own way — and none of that matters.
At weddings, sometimes I’ll say to the groom as he’s standing there looking into his wife’s eyes — fun fact, and you already know this — put two people standing together, nerves flying everywhere, and ask them to look at each other. What always happens? They start laughing. Humans are funny like that.
And that’s the moment. We shoot straight through it, because it’s real.
What I actually do is create a fun moment inside what looks like a pose. I might say, “Alright Mike, you’re going to kiss her now man — remember the movie The Notebook.” Every woman has seen The Notebook. Most men have too, they just won’t admit it. I tell him, “Kiss her like that.”
He starts laughing. She starts laughing. He tries to kiss her, they’re laughing and kissing at the same time, and I’m shooting through all of it.
We’re walking. We’re talking. Talking about anything.
“What’s your dog’s name, lads?”
“How many cows do ye have to milk?”
Whatever.
The whole point is to create moments within poses — real laughter, real reactions, real connection — things that can’t be faked.
So to hell with being awkward. If that’s awkward, then I’m awkward 99% of the day, every day.
Why “Awkward” Couples Photograph Better
Here’s something most people don’t expect.
Couples who say they’re awkward usually:
Care more about each other than the camera
React naturally instead of performing
Forget about posing very quickly
That’s gold.
At weddings in Killarney hotels, small ceremonies in Kenmare, or windy days out in Dingle, the best moments never come from standing still and smiling. They come from movement, conversation, nerves settling, and real interaction.
Once you stop trying to look a certain way, you start being yourselves. That’s when things work.
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What I’m Actually Doing When You Think Nothing Is Happening
This is important.
When couples tell me afterward,
“We didn’t even notice you taking photos” — that’s not luck.
My job isn’t to put you into poses or make you perform. It’s to:
Read when to step in and when to step back
Keep things moving so you don’t freeze
Give simple direction only when it helps
Let moments happen instead of forcing them
At Kerry weddings, things are rarely perfect.
Rooms are small. Weather changes fast. Timings drift. Wind hits hard in places like Dingle and Waterville. That’s normal.
The approach has to adapt. Quiet guidance. Reassurance. No pressure.
If you’re awkward, the worst thing you can do is stop and overthink. So I don’t let that happen.
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You Don’t Need to Know How to Pose
This puts people at ease instantly:
You don’t need to know how to pose.
You don’t need practice.
You don’t need confidence.
You just need to show up.
I’ll never ask you to do anything that feels unnatural or embarrassing. No fake laughter. No stiff hand placement. No “look lovingly into each other’s eyes for 30 seconds” nonsense.
Especially at weddings around Killarney, Kenmare, and West Kerry, the environment already gives us everything we need. You moving. You talking. You reacting.
That’s the story.
What Happens If It’s Windy, Wet, or Messy? (This Is Kerry, After All)
Let’s be honest — Kerry does what it wants.
Wind in Dingle.
Rain in Killarney.
Grey skies in Kenmare that turn golden five minutes later.
None of that ruins photos.
What ruins photos is stress.
When couples are relaxed about things not being perfect, the photos feel real. And real always lasts longer than perfect.
Some of my favourite images came from days that didn’t go to plan.
You’re Not Behind. You’re Normal.
If you’re worried because:
You don’t like being photographed
You feel stiff or shy
You think you’ll look awkward
You’re not behind. You’re normal.
Most couples I photograph in Kerry start the day feeling exactly like that. And by the end, they’re surprised at how easy it all felt.
Not because they changed —
but because the pressure was taken away.
Related Reading & Helpful Guides
If this sounds like you, these might help too:
What “Relaxed Wedding Photography” Actually Means
AI Wedding Photography in Ireland – How Couples Actually Choose Photographers
Kerry Wedding Photographer – Natural & Relaxed Wedding Photography
FAQs
We hate posing — is that a problem?
No. Most couples I work with hate posing. The day isn’t about standing still. It’s about letting things unfold naturally.
What if we’re awkward and nervous all day?
That’s expected, especially in the morning. Nerves settle quickly once things get moving. My job is to keep things calm and flowing.
Do you work a lot in Kerry and Killarney?
Yes. I photograph weddings all over Kerry — including Killarney, Dingle, Kenmare, Tralee, and across West Kerry — so nothing feels unfamiliar or rushed.
What if it’s windy or raining in Dingle?
It happens all the time. Wind and weather are part of Kerry weddings. We work with it, not against it.
We don’t want fake smiles or staged photos — is that okay?
That’s exactly how I work. Nothing forced. Nothing staged. Just real moments, as they happen.
Thank You
A huge thank you to all the couples who trusted me with their weddings across Kerry — and to the venues, staff, suppliers, and guests who make each day what it is.